I’ve been told by several well intentioned souls such things as, “let it go”, “you can’t keep fighting all the time”, "You do too much”, “you’re too driven”, “you have to take care of yourself”, and my favorite, “relax, it’ll work itself out”.Just what do people mean by this?
I sure as heck don’t see these self-appointed guardians of my best interest rolling up their sleeves and pitching in.
Nope.
What I think these people mean is that my activity level makes them feel less in some way.
I am a single mom of a son with autism.
If I stop advocating (the positive term for waging war against politicians and others for the things my son needs to survive), educating myself and others about autism, doing the thousands of things necessary daily just to keep the home going, oh and working outside the home to bring in the bacon, who will?
If I stop, we don’t just sit there where we rested, no, we get shoved backwards and buried deeper.
So PLEASE, don’t tell me to relax!
I hope I do make people uncomfortable with my activity level.
I’d like to see them squirm a bit.
Then I’d wish they’d pick up a vacuum cleaner and help me out, or write a letter to a politician, or cast a vote in support of autism programs, or call the school, or mow my lawn, or give me a gift card for gasoline, or a massage,
or just give me a hug.
or make ANY type of donation or contribution.
If any of you feel the need to SAY something, tell me I’m doing a great job.
If you can’t do ANY of these things – then keep your inadequacies away from me and mine, I do not have time for YOUR problems too!
I can’t possibly be doing too much because there is so much more I wish I could do.
