50 First Kisses

I am watching 50 First Dates – again.

I’m not sure if it’s a spectrum thing or not, but like my son, Red, I have several movies that I can watch over and over.

The intrigue of 50 First Dates is that Lucy, the main character, has her short-term memory erased every night which sets ones mind to wondering...

I wonder, is it possible to erase the memories of my past relationships? Is it possible to have a first kiss and not remember the path of previous first kisses? I don’t want a whack to the head but that may be required for me to ever enjoy a first kiss.

A good friend wants me to go on a double date with her and I don’t even want to date.

I’ve effectively put off dating while completing my Master of Arts degree in Special Education.

School is a valid reason to stay out of the dating pool. Normal people, it seems want to date and have relationships. Am I just too hurt from past relationships or am I not normal?

Whatever.

There seems to be more of us avoiding the dating pool by choice. Frankly, I consider it a toxic cesspool. Probably because my memories haven’t been sprinkled with fairy dust. Maybe I could use a good dusting or a whack on the head.

Still, my favorite movies and books are romantic comedies.

I love to laugh and love.

What ever else, I am an ever hopeful romantic. So when I’m finished with my degree (yipee! 33 days!), maybe I’ll ease myself into the dating pool and try another first kiss or maybe more until I find the first kiss that does not bring back any memories at all.

That, my friend, is a true first kiss.

Trust Your Muse

Have you connected with your muse? Are you beginning to feel the bond? I am a part of Irene and wouldn't exist without her. We are alike in many ways but sometimes she perceives me as different. I am not held to the same norms as Irene, I am a creative spirit.

I can stretch Irene in ways she doesn't know she is capable. Irene tends to be safe, responsible and somewhat predictable. Like most humans, she tends to resist or avoid changes and is overly concerned about how others perceive her. Like an inner-child, I am her playmate. I encourage her to try new things, explore with enthusiasm outside her comfort zone and be bolder and better like so many of the divas in the Solstice Parade. Irene's always in charge but she also knows the fun in giving in to a playmate.

I don't encourage reckless abandon, however I do endorse living passionately. The divas of the Santa Barbara Summer Solstice exemplified connecting and honoring their spirit.


In particular there was one woman at the Solstice that represented what I'm talking about. She was caught up in the celebration of the solstice. For the majority of the people participating and observing it was a really fun parade. For this woman it was a spiritual celebration, which she gave herself to totally. I could sense this woman and her muse were one at this very moment. Her passion for life was palpable and bigger than her.


Writing, or any other type of artistic expression is a merging of muse and artist. When an artist is in the groove or zone, it feels like an empowered spiritual process. The connection is the driving force that brings the two together time and again. Its addictive but never ever destructive.

When was the last time you let your muse guide and empower you?

Are you starting to understand that play dates are important for more than material or inspirational opportunities? Play dates with your muse are to keep you in touch and provide time to build an honorable relationship between you and your Muse. Do you trust your inner-muse?